They Say We're Too Young

They say we're too young to get married. To even be thinking about relationships.
Well they're wrong. Or should I say, they're not entirely right.

We're not too young. The problem issue isn't us, the issue is society.

Back in the middle ages, people got married when they were like 8 years old, and that definitely IS too young. But for the most part, people married when and who they wanted too. What mattered wasn't how old they were. Their bodies were ready, their minds were ready... a young man of 16 was fit for marriage. He was probably a prince, or the son of a baron or something; so finance wasn't an issue. He and his wife got everything they needed from their parents: money, home, servants... The rich had no occupation in that age, and neither earned nor needed any wages. They were personally prepared, and they were fully equipped, so they got married.

We chuckle at ourselves sometimes for being so caught up in love, and wanting love, feeling like we need love, wanting that "other half", and say, "This is so pointless, we're far too young to be thinking about love."

We're wrong. We think about love because we are old enough. Our minds and our bodies are ready for love, it's the next natural desire we have, and it's good and right (if we keep it in check, of course). The problem is, we aren't equipped to be married. Being married requires money, it requires a home, it requires security, non of which we are fully able to provide at our age.

Society is quite structured that way, and there are few exceptions to the rules.

You turn 16, you can drive.
You turn 18, you can smoke, vote, and join the army - you are a legal adult. And you go to college.
You turn 21, you can drink, and you're out of college or about to be.

Now that you've been thru college you have the education that you need to get a good job. So you get a good job, start making money, and buy a house. Now you're pretty much set to get married whenever you want to.

That's why alot of people get married somewhere in their twenties. It isn't because you're not old enough to get married till you're 23ish. It's because generally we're not equipped to get married until then.

That's society, not us. Not necessarily a bad thing.

So, late teens/young adults. You are ready for love. So don't call yourself silly for wanting it and thinking about it.
But remember, you're not equipped for marriage. So let that guide and moderate how you approach love.

I know. Society Sucks. But it ain't changing any time soon.